“My marriage broke up due to lack of sex”

When sex disappears from relationships, this is often written off to a low libido, novels on the side or “overwhelming” life. As a result, the couple breaks up without understanding the real reasons and not trying to establish everything. Our author talks about his experience and gives tips that can help those who are faced with similar problems.

“I was moving away from my husband”

I was thirty, and there was no sex in marriage. The beginning was stormy, but then the libido disappeared. I tried to look and behave as expected: passionately and sexy. I pretended that I want sex with my husband. I went to gynecologists, therapists and other doctors who could tell a way out. It was important for me to know that you can handle it.

But the answers that I received did not suit me: “It is normal that women have sexual desire in constant relationships”, “A little pain during sex is nothing wrong”, “You are all right with health, there is simply no libido”.

I moved away from my husband. I felt guilty for the fact that my body is

Nous tous sur l’une ou l’autre étape de la vie passa à travers les portes de l’école de musique. Et peu importe que tout ce que vous vous souvenez de ces années troublées est de savoir comment jouer à un waltz félin (est-ce, à part, est-il appelé?). La cialis original chose est de s’asseoir dans la soirée devant la fille, de regarder pénétrer dans ses yeux et de dire: “Je n’ai jamais joué à personne auparavant.” Et faire quelque chose. Bien sûr, cela sera plus libéré sur l’organe. Mais la Domra va tomber.

excited for so long and I can not reach orgasm (not once for the entire time of family life). Instead of telling my husband about my needs, I moved and was silent.

In this delicate situation, we had to support each other, but silence, shame, discontent and fear separated us. Only five years after the divorce, I found out the truth that returned me to a full -fledged sexual life.

Why do women don’t want sex

The truth is that female sexuality is different from the male. The woman’s desire is not constantly, but cyclical. The process of female sexual excitement is built on multi -stage stimulation: physical, psychological, emotional and mental. It is also affected by a sense of safety and the ability not to do what is unpleasant.

If a woman receives a stimulation that she needs, feels attention and care, she has excitement and sexual desire

Excitement can be very intense and prolonged, if you allow it to develop naturally. At the moment of proximity, women experience a wide range of emotions: from sadness and anger to erotic pleasure.

Women often follow the partner, and sexual intercourse begins before the state of complete excitement begins. As a result, they are not satisfied, but they are silent about it because they are afraid to injure a partner. But the partner feels that the woman is unhappy, and insists on more frequent contacts. The gap between partners is growing, trust disappears from the relationship, and the woman avoids sex.